“When you’ve been wrong,” you feel rejected, cheated, betrayed, and deserted. The emotional feeling of depression penetrates the inner most being that crushed and destroyed you. Is it the darkest moment in your life?
Forgiving and forgetting is easier said than done. It seems impossible, for someone who felt desperately, “they’ve been wrong “.
The word of God reminds us, to forgive our enemies, forgive them 70 x 7. The question is who are our enemies? Everyone can be a candidate on this category, and one of them can be the destroyer.
Yes anyone can be a destroyer, in warning of the tactics of Satan, Jesus said; “the thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy “. Keep in mind that there are some people who get their sense of significance from destroying others. There are people whose entire sense of value, and self worth, and power are tied up in their desire to lord it over others and punish them for their misdeeds. It’s often seen in families - between in-laws and relatives. In every case relationship are destroyed and lasting wounds inflicted.
Beware, because destroyers can be charmers, who appears devoted to their families and to God. Some men abused their families are so well thought that their women wish they were married to them - after all, they are so kind and helpful. Yet at home they monsters - demanding irrational and angry. And they are convinced that they are right and all who disagree with them are wrong.
Meet Cain the destroyer, the first offspring of this world is Cain. Adam and Eve were the first parents who raised him, but they are not the last. Cain represents those individuals we call DESTROYER the kind of people who can leave you bleeding along the road and walk away feeling sorry for themselves.
Perhaps the most compelling modern Cain was Timothy James McVeigh - the young man who killed 168 people when he blew up the Alfred P. Murrah Federal Building in Oklahoma City on April 19, 1995. His motive, to defend the constitution, he said, and to inflict destructive injury on the American government. He walked away feeling no remorse none whatsoever. He went to execution feeling convince he had done nothing that warranted regret. He died as defiantly as he had lived. Timothy James McVeigh was the modern Cain - the DESTROYER.
In the world of showbiz entertainment, feuds, slandering, they are destroying each other’s image. It is just but a common scenario among actors, talent managers, directors and producers, against one another. To reach “fame and fortune” is every ones goal, ignoring the essence of friendship and VALUES OF FORGIVENESS. Colossians 3:8 .
Politician are none exception, bloody, violent competition is expected. Both candidates and aspirants are throwing and exchanging sour grapes, bitter, spicy, cursing words. Degrading and destroying their opponents are part of the game, they so called “politics”. And POWER can be an issue, aside from FAME and FORTUNE. But power fueled with GREED, ENVY and JEALOUSY can kill someone.
LISTEN! Try to avoid struggles for the “TOP DOG’s PET” - There is always another way to get things done. Ones are good at figuring out how to get things done.
UTILIZE YOUR TALENT
A Love Story of Korean woman and American man married for 6 yrs. suddenly threatened by a man’s impulsive decision for a divorce. He said, he wants his freedom, with a promise that the wife can have everything, excluding the 20 million dollar she owe him, that she invested to open her own business. Furiously the woman replied; you broke my heart; you pay my heart! Both harbor grudges and hatred and parted their ways.
Learn and pray for forgiveness and grace, to ask the heavenly father, bring to mind the people whom we have hurt - either intentionally or unintentionally. Ask the Lord to forgive us from our CALLOUSNESS and grant grace to make things right with hearts we have wounded. Make us sensitive and thoughtful, esteeming others better than ourselves.
Be quick to admit or mistake. It will pay off through forgiveness, and direction or new options.
LET THE CHAINS FALL OFF
I’m told that when a rattlesnake is cornered it will sometimes bite itself. This self-inflicted punishment is perhaps done in anger or as form of vengeance, but it hurts only the snake. Just so bitterness is a self-inflicted wound that hurts us but is of no concern to our enemy. I don’t know how to say it more strongly: We must let go of the bitterness and revenge that contaminates our souls. We are needlessly hurting ourselves.
Do you harbor resentment?
Then you are poisoning your own meal at life’s banquet table. Imagine your mind as a “little shop of horrors,” a kind of museum filled with relics of all the injustices and harm you’ve ever endured. Each exhibit depicts your memory of what someone did or does that hurt you. Brightly illuminated by your resentment, every exhibit has a sound track echoing with loud angry and accusing voices. The walls are covered with horrible instruments of punishment and long list of penalties to be inflicted on your WRONGDOERS. And coating everything is a think. Clinging residue of self-pity that keeps you from moving along the NEW FUTURES WING, of your future-where the exhibits are filled with pleasure and joy--and possibilities.
Can you imagine what it would be like to be locked permanently inside such a chamber of horror and hate resentment? If you are enable to forgive others for real or imagined wrongs then that horror chamber exist within YOU. That chamber of Ill Will is YOUR OWN MIND.
And what a prize you pay for maintaining such a museum of resentment! The negative reliving of your past strokes anger, resentment, and seething hostility. It also turns your mind against itself. It is like poison to your soul. The simple profound truth is that the entire horror shop crumbles if you simply FORGIVE. By forgiving others you forgive yourself and you gain self-esteem, and you free your own spirit to soar to new heights.
There is no time to waste. Now is the time to stop the pain of the past from poisoning the joys of your present and your future.
Decide to FORGIVE, LET GOD AND THEN LET GO.
published in
The Philippine Courier
